The phrase that pays...

"I'm doing you a favor!"

Relationship boundaries: Chapter I

Greetings! If you're familiar with my blog you know about the pizza incident (if not, click here). You know, the one where you've been daydreaming about some leftovers and you finally arrive home and it's half-way there (or completely gone). Last night, I failed myself. I ordered pizza and wings for an incredible Wednesday night in by myself. Since I'm not an animal (I only ate half of the pizza and six wings), I decided to eat the remnants of the previously mentioned feast this afternoon. 

As humans, creatures with consciousness, memory and common sense; most of the time we learn from our mistakes. If we did something in the past that had consequences, we do everything in our capability to avoid repeating those errors. That doesn't apply to Ryan Scott. 

As I opened the pizza box and noticed a chunk of it was missing, I didn't know how to react. A couple of minutes earlier, I was moved by this sad story of "I've only eaten a banana today" and even offer part of my meal (this offer wasn't real) considering that there was enough for both of us.

Naturally, I confronted my enemy. "Why did you lie to me?" along with a "Why would you do that again?". His response, "I'm doing you a favor". I'm doing you a favor... So, this gentleman eats my food and has the nerve of calling me FAT. Yes, by saying "I'm doing you a favor" he is indeed calling me fat. I know that my readers are smart people, I know that they understand this is the biggest insult you can direct towards women. Again, this doesn't apply to Ryan Scott.

Then I started analyzing our relationship (yes, my gluttony led me to this) and this isn't the first time I've heard this whole "favor" thing. How many times in your relationship your partner has done something completely douchy hidden as a "favor" to you? There are boundaries in a relationship. It doesn't matter if you're living with each other or if you poop with the door open. Something is going to feel like crossing a line at some point and it's going to trigger the other part. 

I am very hangry. I know I'm doing the "overreacting" thing but it pisses me off. Being in a relationship is hard AS FUCK. Sharing your life and space with another human can lead to a constant emotional roller coaster and it's so frustrating. I know that feeling this way is normal. I understand that I'm not perfect either and that I have a lot of things that are not easy to work with. But, goddammit! Hating your significant other sure is easy. Yes, this whole existential crisis started with a pizza. There's always a trigger, folks!

So, breathe. You're not alone. 

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